Why Do We Hurt Ourselves?
Apr. 18th, 2007
In my struggle with self injury I have been looking for resources that are trans-positive and include stories from male identified people. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find any. I believe the resource should be out there and I am committed to helping to create such a resource. I see self injury as a coping mechanism and my goal is to spread awareness around the issues of self injury that are inclusive of the transmasculine community.
I'm asking for personal contributions particularly from the FTM, transmasculine and genderqueer community from people who either currently deal with or in the past have dealt with self injury. Note, stories from people of all identities will be accepted. I'm interested in how people learn to stop or the struggle to stop. What has helped (or not helped) along the way. Support or lack thereof. How one describes their self injury to others (if at all). Or anything else that you wish to share.
Please submit your stories to firstname.lastname@example.org before June 1st.
Feb. 25th, 2007
Hey, I'm new. I'm a genderqueer FTM, I'm 23, and this is my anonymous journal or I'd tell you my name. I don't know if this community is alive at all, but I have a question, (more on about the si part and less about the trans part.)
So I was talking to my therapist recently, and we were talking about si (among other things). He has a totally different approach to it than anyone I've ever talked to before, and he said something kind of amazing. He said he recognizes that it's a coping mechanism and that even if it's not the best choice in the world, it's how I'm taking care of myself right now. And he basically told me that instead of wanting me to just Stop Cutting Right Now (like previous therapists have tried to get me to do), he'd rather that I work on dealing with the shame around it, and try to stop beating myself up about it every time I do it. It surprised me when he said that, but it's stuck with me, and I've been thinking about it a lot.
Has anyone ever said anything like this to you? What do you guys think about it?
Dec. 3rd, 2006
09:10 pm - check in
looks like there hasn't been a post here in a while
how are folks doing?
Sep. 30th, 2006
what techniques to avoid SI are like holding ice? i need something that hurts but wont leave a mark
please respond... i'm really struggling here...
Sep. 24th, 2006
11:49 pm - Call for Intro Posts
I would really like to see this community stay active. I'm suggesting the following questions for introductions, but feel free to make up your own or only answer a few of theses.
Fun Questions -
If you could have any super power what would you choose?
What is your favorite fall memory?
What would be your ideal place to live?
What qualities do you like most about yourself?
Questions related to SI -
When did you start?
Have you stopped? Do you want to stop?
Do you talk about your SI (in person) with others?
Do you talk about your SI (via the internet, etc.) with others?
What triggers you?
What helps you?
Are you part of other SI web sites?
Have any resources to share?
Questions related to being trans -
How do you identify gender-wise?
How long have you identified as such?
Do you talk about being trans with others?
How trans friendly is the place where you live? work? go to school?
When is the first time you met a trans person?
Sep. 5th, 2006
Okay, I just saw that I already posted this a few days ago (I had it saved under Private and wasn't sure why) in sapphos_ed. Sorry, if you're getting this more than once.
I'm a 24 year old diabetic (Type I) aspie transman with DID/MPD. I'm also a recovering anorexic (or so they tell me) and when I get more anxious or stressed, my OCD and anorexia seems to "flare up". I start gender therapy on Monday (unless she cancels again) and hope to legally change my name and start T sometime this school year.
I guess I am mainly asking for advice on how to calm myself down. My coping skills don't seem to be working and I haven't eaten today. I'm too nervous to eat. I've tried painting, writing, listening to music, breathing, taking a warm bath, watching movies, reading - yet it doesn't seem to be working. Any other ideas? I'm also getting stronge urges to cut (No SI since January of 2005) which I am also battling.
I guess I'm worried the gender therapist may decide I'm not fit for transition. Ironically that made my problems flare up more, just worrying about that.
Aug. 31st, 2006
Hi, I'm one of the maintainers of this community (thanks, nixicat!), so I wanted to let you folks know a little about me and my struggle with self-injury and gender identity.
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Aug. 30th, 2006
05:14 pm - First Post
First posts in a community with sensitive subject matter are always the hardest. I am making this one public so that those who are interested in a community like this can know that they aren't alone. Other people have had similar concerns in the past, and it is good to have a place to connect with those who might understand.
Please feel free to join if you think that this might be the right place for you. The moderator (currently me) will approve your request to join as quickly as possible.
I hope you find what you need, here or somewhere else. Just please, take care of yourself.